Christian Mingle: The Single Church Girl

Please bow your heads for a word of prayer. Dear heavenly Father, being single sucks. Please give my future husband a better GPS system so he can find me sooner. Thanks in advance God. Amen. Sooo…this particular blog is for the Christian singles who are patiently or impatiently waiting on a blessing in the form of a mate. At this point in my blogging life, I’m an open book and y’all know a lot about me. Transparency is cool if it will help someone else along the way. My mother asked me if I had considered seeing if there were any dating prospects at my church. I quickly rolled my eyes and without even knowing if there were, answered no. You see, I want a man of God, but I have come to the conclusion that it’s rough finding that man in church. How does that work, you ask? I haven’t a clue, but maybe we can figure it out together.

Church is full of Saints, but it’s also filled with ain’ts so therein lies the problem. It’s not that I’m speaking ill of Christians, I’m shedding light on the intentions of some that aren’t so Christ-like. We all should know by now that the act of attending church means nothing if you have no real relationship with God. This doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, this means you need to be constantly evaluating yourself to want to do the will of God. Yes, we fall short, but we keep on striving towards the mark. I recently saw a Facebook post that stated that some don’t go to church to PRAY, but instead they come to PREY. Very profound statement! And in it’s profundity, it’s scary to think that someone would be looking to get over on a person striving to do right. But it’s the world we live in, which makes the dating process for a single Christian a headache at times.

When I am dating, I make it a priority to see if the person first attends church, then go from there. All men who attend church aren’t devils, so I have to start there at least. I once asked a guy that question and he answered that he was “in between churches.” I quickly realized that meant he didn’t go and really had no intentions of going. The funny part about dating a person who doesn’t have a relationship with God is, you will soon find out and it will be a BIG disruption in your connection. Being unequally yoked is not the same as having different views in politics or sports teams. This nonequivalent connection will divide a man and woman, so this is why I need a man of God. I won’t settle for less.

I feel as if dating is different for Christians because we shouldn’t settle for less than God’s best. Doing so is almost as if we are not trusting God to give us who we deserve. I often look at MY choices of guys in the past and see how I did not fully trust God to choose for me. It makes a really big difference. This may be very cliche, but I would rather be alone than end up with the wrong person. That’s how soul ties, unwanted pregnancies, and divorces come about. So while I do not like being single at all, it’s a process that I have to be apart of to be with who I deserve and who will treat me like Jesus loved the church. That’s ultimately the love we all need to have in our lives. If your mate isn’t treating you as such, let it go.