Anyone who knows me can tell you that I look at the expiration date on everything. I’m reluctant to eat or drink anything that expires the same day, let alone days after. Maybe it’s a phobia or maybe it’s being cautious enough to know when to get something better. It makes me wonder why people cling to expired connections. This can be with friends, family, or things. No one in their right mind would knowingly drink spoiled milk, so why would we continue spoiled relationships? I know that we as humans like to give people the benefit of the doubt, but some connections are what is hindering you from moving forward. You are so willing to swim across the ocean for a person who wouldn’t jump over a puddle for you. The balance is off and it can drain the life out of you if you don’t break free from some people and things.
If the saying “iron sharpens iron” is true, are you dull or sharp? To answer that, you have to be truthful about your circle. How many of them can you truly count on? How many of them are leaches, drain your energy, or have you outgrown? It’s okay to outgrow some people and things, it means you are GROWING. And really, that’s what you’re supposed to do and real friends will understand. You won’t want to hang out all night, you won’t want to gossip every day, you won’t want to spend your money of frivolous things. Instead of the person trying to figure out why you don’t want to do those things anymore, they should be concerned why they still want to. But that takes maturity, which expired connections don’t usually have, hence the reason why you must move on.
There are a few ways to know if you have outgrown people:
- Hanging out with them doesn’t excite you.
- You get slightly annoyed by their presence.
- They don’t freely encourage you when they see you need it.
- They are hesitant in supporting or congratulating you.
- You can’t find anything to talk about when you’re together.
- The past experiences are better than the present ones.
- You are their go to person, but they never help you.
It’s okay to move forward in life without taking some people and habits with you!