There comes a time in your life when you can no longer accept any and every kind of treatment. You only need positive vibes and you should do everything in your power to protect your peace. At the age of 33, I have a very low tolerance for crap. I believe I used a good amount of patience from the ages of 21-30, so it has to be spread thin from here on out. At this point, it can only be spread to those who genuinely don’t know something, those who truly need help, elderly people, and my future kids (yeah, I haven’t even started having kids!). Everyone else is on thin ice. With that being said, protecting my peace is of the highest importance as of now. I have even came to the conclusion of an ultimatum, treat me right or treat me right. There literally is no in between.
I used to be one of those girls who would just take a lot of mess. I would be in a relationship with a guy who I continually gave chance after chance. Unfortunately, those chances were not spent well. So at this age, I’m dropping negative energy like it’s nothing. Just ask my ex! That wasn’t to be mean, but if you aren’t appreciating me at the level I deserve, why are we together? I truly wish more women AND men would have this mindset because we tend to hurt ourselves trying to hold on to people who don’t respect our feelings. If we are honest with ourselves, a lot of drama can be avoided of we try not to hold on to unnecessary and worthless connections. Deep down, we know when someone or something doesn’t serve us any more, but we just have to see what’s going to happen. That’s why the saying goes, believe people the first time they show you who they are.
The next place where we tend to put up with too much negativity is work. I get that we all need money to pay bills, so the things we’re willing to put up with is a little more than usual. We let bosses say smart remarks, we overlook that lazy coworker who refuses to help, and we wait around to be appreciated for the hard work we do every day. We wait for raises and promotions that may not ever come because no one says thank you. We are worked to the bone and hardly ever compensated fairly. Ask yourself, would you do your job if you weren’t getting paid? Would you put up with being mistreated by your boss if they were a random person on the street? Probably not! They’ll stress you to DEATH and have your position filled before your body even gets cold. Is your sanity and health worth it? I think not.
It would be peaches and cream to live in a world where people know to appreciate your hard work. It would make working hard for a company more fulfilling when they say they are thankful for what you do. But the reality is that sometimes it just won’t happen. We wonder why we’re depressed and have self esteem issues, and it’s because of the constant negativity we put ourselves around. You struggle to feel good about yourself when those around you treat you like crap. You start to think that it’s all you deserve, when you really don’t. This is why we have to check our circle of friends, limit our time with hurtful family members, breakup with disrespectful mates, and work for people who uplift you. At this point in adulthood, you decide who is able to treat you which way.